Just because you don't call for a massacre of us doesn't mean you aren't being hateful.

Saying we are not the gender we say and know we are is hateful. Calling us by the gender and name we were assigned at birth on purpose is hateful. Pointing out our chromosomes and/or our gentalia is hateful.

You may have not done that in this conversation, but that's what gender critical people do. If you stand with them, you're against us.